Sunday, October 18, 2009

My Dealbreaker List

There are some things that guys do that totally break the deal for me. You may be fine, they may be educated, but if they do any of the following things--it's over. These deal breakers, also known as non-negotiable boundaries are things I simply cannot accept or tolerate when starting or building a relationship.

1. Smoke
I hate smoking. I hate the way it smells, the way it chokes you up, and certainly the way smoking kills you. It grosses me out. And mostly importantly it tells me you have little regard for your health.

This one is a little superficial, but still very important to me. Long nails on guys is so are short stubby ones. And don't get me started on dirty nails.... So nasty. Men need to be able to take care of the little things just as well as the big things.

3. Bad Grammar
I speak English and I expect him to as well. I don't mean he needs to speak like a Harvard English professor, but I do nee to understand the words that are coming out of his mouth. I once had a guy start trying to talk to me while I was walking to my car. I'm sure he thought he was speaking English, but after asking him 3 times to repeat himself, I just decided that we need not have a conversation. I'm sorry but, "You gotta blue up pin thru shoe" is no come-on I've ever heard before.

5. Pretty boys
There is nothing sexier than a good looking dude that has no idea he's a good looking dude. And yes it's even OK to acknowledge that you like the way you look, but when you put SO much effort into your physical looks, that you completely neglect those around you--it's a def deal breaker. Trying so hard to always look so polished and put together is a sign of insecurities and who really wants to deal with an insecure man? I have neither the time nor the patience to stroke your ego constantly. It is important to take care of yourself, but looks fade and is it necessary to put THAT much energy into something that is temporary?

4. Atheism
If he doesn't believe in something greater than himself, that's a serious deal breaker. We can deal with the specifics and seriousness of our religious associations at a later point, but he has to believe in God.

That's all for now...there are a ton more deal-breakers when it comes to actually being in a relationship, but when just getting to know someone, these are the things that kill it for me.

What kills it for you?


  1. i dont know how i feel about pretty boys being a deal breaker... but i guess i can understand.

  2. Yea i gotta say..being "pretty" is def points against you in my book...but that might have more to do with me wanting to be the prettier one out of the two of us lol