Is It Possible Mr. Loveable is Already in My Life?

Since love is one of my favorite topics to discuss, I though I would talk about soulmates for a minute. A lot of people believe there is no such thing as just one soulmate, rather we can have many soulmates over the period of our lives.

I disagree. I believe every person has only one true soulmate and most of us will never meet that person. A bummer, I know. But that's what happens when you settle for the next best thing instead of waiting for the Truth to come along. You know, the One. And I understand, it feels kind of counterproductive inn this society to wait for something or someone. We should be going out and getting what we want. At least that's what society tells us.

Furthermore, it is always possible that the soulmate we seek doesn't look the way we would prefer them to and hence, we overlook them. Maybe people don't meet their soulmate because the two never bump into each other. One lives in the U.S. while the other lives in London. I would describe a soulmate as someone who fits so perfectly into your missing parts that you feel nothing but whole around them. Very few are lucky enough to find their soulmate and those who do may often let that person walk away.

Hot Girls

I don't know how I stumbled across this video, but these two guys had me laughing out loud.



It gets really good about 45 seconds in.

The Last Airbender

Am I the only one who is excited about the Avatar: The Last Airbender movie coming out in 2010? I know it's based on a kids show but I love it. And I'm mad amped!

New This Fall on the CW

So as the summer winds down, I've been seeing commercials for this Fall's TV lineup. I am extra interested in what they have line up new for the CW, and I must say I was a tad bit disappointed....but just a tad.

Melrose Place 2.0-

Now I have never seen the original, so I won't be able to make any complaints about this revamped version failing in comparison as I can with 90210, but I can say this show looks waay intense from the previews. Sometimes I just have to wonder: "Is all that drama necessary?" I guess so or who would watch? Peep Ashlee Simpson Wentz(still trying to have a career) and that Greek guy from Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Is that girl far right supposed to be their token? SMH

The Beautiful Life: TBL-

Executive produced by Ashton Kutcher, this show apparently revolves around aspiring models living together in New York city. I'm sure it will be ripe with sex, drugs, and beautiful skinny white people. Again with all the drama... Familiar faces are Mischa Barton and Corbin Bleu. I see you trying to shed your Disney image. He still managed to look gayzer for the 5 seconds he was in the preview.

And why they always gotta put the people of color on the edge of promo pics? I mean can I see some darker faces?! It doesn't even have to be black people. I'll take an Asian or a real Hispanic.


The Vampire Diaries-

Oh Lord....It's Twilight, but weekly and with the potential of lasting for years....
I'm so over this whole vampire craze. Can we move on to something like unicorns or mermaids or centaurs? Just anything that doesn't involve irritating chicks and deadpan pale dudes.

I hope the CW won't be making a habit of importing Canadians off Degrassi either. First Annie from 90210, now this main girl, Nina Dobrev(the girl with the baby who inadvertently caused J.T. to get stabbed in the back).


Sadly, Everybody Hates Chris and The Game will not be returning to the CW, which means even less diversity on the network. So sad...I really loved that show. However, I have heard that BET is trying to pick up the The Game in order to go for a fourth season. Major brownie points for BET if they can make this happen.

New Moon Trailer

Here's one of the newest trailers for the Twilight saga, entitled "Meet Jacob Black". Although I've never read any books in this series(and don't intend to) I must say they are doing a excellent job of selling this movie. I've always been on Team Jacob(what can I say, I root for men of color), and I'm glad the second book/movie focuses on his character a little more. Def loving the shirtless scenes BTdubs.



FYI...the reason I just cannot get into the book is its weak female protagonist. Bella finds herself surrounded by strong alpha-type males and soon she struggles to see existence without these men.

She becomes deeply depressed after Edward leaves, and only begins to feel better when she can replace Edward's attention with Jacob's. Plus, I just find her to be boring and not cute. I would like to see more empowered young leading ladies who enjoy the company of a man, but don't fall to pieces after he has left.

Again, I haven't really read the books or watched the entire first movie, but I get the gist...and I'm NOT a fan.

Good Hair

Can't wait to see this new documentary from Chris Rock. It looks enlightening and hilarious. Check out the promo:




Out this October, "Good Hair" is definitely a must see.

Cheating

I know when men cheat on their girlfriends/wives/whatevers that they claim to love, a lot of the time, it is only a physical urge they are trying to satisfy. They still love their wives, they're still emotionally connected to them. Still, NO EXCUSE.

But this isn't about men cheating. Today, I'm more interested in why women cheat.

Disclaimer: Everything I'm about to say next, is mostly just general knowledge that I'm sure I could prove with some statistical research, but I have none at the moment to back me up, so take it as you may.

Women connect more emotionally to their partners. Well maybe not more emotionally, but primarily. A woman first has to be really feeling you, before she can feel comfortable moving on to anything more serious. That's why women need to be wined and dined, bought things and given flowers, we need to feel cared for and appreciated in order to make that emotional connection.

Once that's done, well then it gets fun.

Research shows that women are more jealous of their man making an emotional connection with another woman, as oppose to just having sex with another woman; whereas, with men it's vice- versa. Sex, jealous. Emotional connection, not so much. Gee I wonder why this is?

So I guess where I'm trying to go with all this is do women still need that emotional connection with another man to enter into the arena of physical cheating or does it become just a purely carnal thing or maybe its more complicated? Since we're dealing with relationships, it's probably the latter.

Cheating is just so messed up...for all the parties involved. We need to have more respect for one another, stop making excuses for ourselves, and keep it in the pants, skirts, whatever. Ok. Imma stop preaching now.

Hmm...maybe I should write a post about why people even bother attempting to be monogamous anymore. Entitled "Requiem for Faithfulness".

Shakira's New Video "She Wolf"

I recently heard Shakira's newest song She Wolf, and although I cannot understand the majority of what she is saying(as usual), the song is quite catchy and the music video is kind of a trip. Check it out.

Shakira - New Music - More Music Videos

She's doing some crazy sick moves in the vid. I think she is more contortionist than a belly dancer in the video, but both of them are difficult and Shakira has always been so mesmerizing to watch.

"There's a she wolf in the closet. Something, something, something, else... ahwoo"
(And that's exactly how I sing it) lol

Didn't This Woman Quit?

Palin Renews Criticism of Democratic Proposals
By The New York Times
Former Gov. Sarah Palin of Alaska, refusing to let her recent remarks about overhauling the health care system die a natural death, said on Thursday that Democratic proposals would indeed lead to “health care rationing,” and that sick, elderly and disabled people would suffer the most under such a system run by “government bureaucrats.”

Why is anyone still listening to what this woman has to say? She already quit her job and (in my opinion of course) admitted that she was incompetent for the position in the first place. Somebody please remove her microphone and platform so she could go take care of her grandchild or something.

Michael Jackson Tribute Flashmob

I really love me a good flashmob. They are completely random and fun to watch unsuspecting people react. I saw my first flashmob on the show, Weeds(I know,a little late), and I would love to participate in one someday. Here's 2 MJ flashmobs in Stockholm:



Soo many people!! This Swedish flashmob has got their stuff together!

Who's Loving Black Women Now...

Lately I've been stumbling across blogs dedicated to the beauty of black women. Nothing new there. But what is interesting to me is who is writing these blogs. There seems to be a whole community out there of white men who are genuinely appreciative of brown, dark-skinned women! I mean I knew they were out there--I've had a few white dudes holla at this on several occasions--but I guess I didn't appreciate how genuine white men were about their love for black women.

Half the time I'm not sure whether to be uncomfortable by the sheer adulation that could seem borderline slave-master love or whether to be flattered and feel validated that some non black men appreciate and covet black beauty. I think though that I will go with the latter.

Whether it be jungle fever or serious attraction, it most likely depends on each man.

Love Stevie....

Natural 'fros I Just Can't Help But Love

"Black women may be the only race of women who live their whole lives never knowing what their real hair looks and feels like. Think about that."

Wow...that quote caught my eye. But it is def too true. Black women from an early age begin processing the mess out of their hair and forget what their true hair feels like. After reading that quote from a fellow blogger , I just wanted to post some of my favorite natural looks on black females.

When will we see the light?!!

I do love dark dark skin. This model's skin tone is amazingly flawless and I just love the ultra short cut on her.

Funky style too.

Not too much hair in this pic, but I did love her skin texture.

I heart this picture. Pretty sure that's a wig, but could you a imagine someone walking down the street with an Afro that big? White people would be scared lol. I kid, but not really....

Well, I could go on and on with the pics, but you get the gist: Black women are just so stunningly beautiful.

Where are all the Jobs?!!!

The other day, a friend of mine told me about a guy who just got a job as a paralegal in D.C. How did he get this job? A fantastic resume? No. A daddy that's partner? Maybe at another firm, but no. He emailed an alumni who worked at the firm to ask if they would like to go for drinks after work. The alumni responded "I don't have time for drinks, right now I need a paralegal." Voila! Dude's got a job.

Sure this is an extreme example, but this is the new world of networking. And you got to work it or someone else will. There's no time for pride or timidness when sooo many college graduates are looking for work.

If you've got those connections, use em. Email em, Facebook em, call em, borderline harass em. Whatever it takes, because if you don't someone else sure will.

These are desperate times and the unemployed must resort to desperate measures....

SO where are all the jobs? They're around. You just have to hustle those connections, cause that's really how most people are getting jobs in this economy.

Still Not an Alchie

My mother just asked if there was any wine left. Which there wasn't(still not an alchie). I consider this a win for me cause its always better to drink socially than alone. Even if it is with my mother...sigh.

I would like a nice dessert wine right about now actually....maybe a rose?

Side Shaved Head: Hot or definitely NOT?

I've recently been noticing a trend of ladies shaving one side of their head. I guess it's original and daring, but it also just seems lopsided and unnecessary.

I first noticed Cassie proudly debuting a half shaved head...who knew that was only the beginning...

Next, we saw La La Vasquez rocking a similar look:

I assume they were going for rocker chic....

Then all of a sudden, Rihanna, jumps on this unsymmetrical stylewagon...

Does anyone else peep the tattoo this chick has got IN her ear?!! That's just doing the mostest...

The latest to join is Ms. Keyshia Cole:

And of course she always has to ghettosize what every style she's rockin...

I just don't know how I feel about this look. Maybe if someone with an Afro tried to rock it, I could get down...

Overall, I hope this style leaves as quickly and as silently as it came, but somehow, I doubt it will.

Are Black Women Missing Out?

Today I was talking with a friend of mine who said she was going swimming but she wasn't going into the water because she had a perm.

This got me thinking about all the things black females are missing out on because of one aspect of their blackness or another.

My own swimming experience: During college, all students were required to pass a swim test. One of my first weeks on campus, I took the test and failed so miserably, I had to crawl out of the pool and slink away wet, tired, and embarrassed. Needless to say, I ended up in a swim course with waay too many black females.
I don't know if it's because we don't want to ruin our hair(actually, I'm pretty sure that's the reason) that we never learn how to swim or what, but that's just dangerous...you never know when or if you might have to tread water for hours until a rescue team arrives(these things happen).

Basically, my point is swimming is actually a lot of fun and all women should feel they have the option to enjoy the cool refreshing feeling of a dip in the pool, no matter what their hair texture. So, just jump.